WEDDING SERIES: Choosing your Bridal Gown

The perfect dress a woman would wear is her wedding gown.

When I was still studying I already have the idea what wedding dress I would like to wear on my wedding. A mermaid cut with low back, the texture will be made with laces and bead works.. a very sophisticated gown everything is settled... then Vera Wang came in... 

Her design was so gorgeous and the intricate of her gown was perfect. I think every woman fantasize wearing Vera Wang on their wedding...unfortunately only privilege people can wear Vera Wang and I'm not one of them. However we can still have our wedding gown inspired by her creations but not totally her. Just select few designs and go to your chosen designer and let them create your desired gown inspired by Vera Wang.

My wedding gown was inspired by

Oscar dela Renta

Vera Wang

Monique Lhullier

But I let my designer which is the most amazing designer and very humble, Jazel Sy - Midel. She mixed all those ideas that I had and created the perfect gown for me. What I want on my gown is that, there should be flowers and laces on the skirt area since our theme is Spring. I don't like a tube or strapless gown because I'm not comfortable in wearing one that's the only concern I like. i can't decide what style I like if it will be a ball gown or A line or sheath but she helped me in choosing. I was wondering during our meeting if she can read my mind or maybe she was just so good :) Here is the link for her website if you're interested to have your wedding gown be created by Jazel Sy Fashion Shop. 

I really can't wait to see my wedding gown. Here's her design for my gown.

And here's the result of the wedding gown. I love how it turned out. I love the color the laces bead works. It's so lovely.

Photos by : Chestknots Studios

WEDDING SERIES: When someone made me realize

I was busy at work yesterday and usually my Facebook is open the whole time while i'm at work to communicate with my coordinator. When i received a message from a long lost friend. I felt like he wanted to talk about something and wants me to listen. So since I am not doing anything at all and was a bit bored at that time I did listen and chat with him. 

He said he was so sad and devastated about a failed relationship, that I can't blame him though he made that final choice. This time he was on that stage where he was trying to convince himself that he did everything for love, however he still put an end to the relationship and still feels incomplete and want to win her back but don't want to risk and do anything at all. I'd been through the same situation where I am so crazy in love with a person that I am not even thinking if its still healthy or not all i was thinking about was that I can't live without him. When we ended it I got crazy and worked almost 24 hours a day and got drunk and did crazy stuff and left the country.

The thing is...Things happen in our lives because it's our choice. Everyday is a chance, it only depends on the choices that we made, on what will happen after. If we did made a choice then, consequences will appear after that, it usually comes along most of the time. And that we have to accept, good or bad! because no one chose it for us it's us who made that choice not someone so we can't blame anyone if the choice we made hurts us. When I ended it up... I absolutely said it was over. That I'm done and i don't deserved it anymore. Then If that's the same feeling that you feel, then that's the end! But if you said that and deep inside you it wasn't still over then.... it won't be over no matter what you do.

I can say in a relationship you will go through a lot of trials and you need to make a lot of choices and very hard decision. 

I'd been through a rough time before meeting Christian and he was someone I never expected to arrive in my life. He love me in a way I can never describe. He care for me in a way no one did. He value me so much and it's... unexpected.

The conversation yesterday made me realize how Christian affects my life. How he helped me picking up all those pieces that was shattered. With his love and care and affection I made it through. 

I can't explain the feeling when i wake up every morning from his kiss. When everyday he says he missed me and he loves me.

I'm not saying that my relationship with Christian is perfect. We also collide most of the time but we try to patch things up asap. Because we both know that we need to work things out together. We'd been through a lot of trials as well.

I hold on.. and he holds on too... that only matters and that's why were still together and now preparing for our wedding!

*Post from My Wedding website I made for our wedding.

WEDDING SERIES: When you know it's RIGHT

When I was having a meeting with one of our wedding supplier and he was asking me questions about us, one of his question was "how long were you together?" so I answered him directly without any hesitation. I think he wasn't expecting my answer. He was absolutely surprised well, most of our suppliers do, but I have a simple answer to them when they I ask me if I'm sure with my decision.. my answer is

"I know it's the right thing because I am happy"

Well how will a person know when it is the right time for him/her to settle down?

Some people say when you met someone, or if you are financially stable or if you're on the right age or if you're mature enough But how will you really know? or let just say what if you met someone but you're financially unstable or if you're still young and immature? Do you need to perfect all the criteria before jumping into marriage life?

I am 27 years old.. some say i'm still young.. some say i'm on the right age.. my opinion.. im happy.  Am i financially stable?, I can buy things I want, I have savings and I have a stable job. Am I mature enough? I decide for my own and i face every consequences of my decisions pretty well either good or bad. It is a continuous learning.

Now why we decided to tie the knot?

It wasn't like we love each other so much so let's get married. Loving someone so much wasn't enough reason at all, If it is.. then there shouldn't be growth of annulment and divorce rate. Christian and I love each other so much but it will never work out just by loving each other first thing, we differ in so many ways: in attitude,in point of views, in likes, favorites but we learn to enjoy each differences that we have and we accepted it however we worked it out it wasn't like a day and everything was fine... NO, it took us years to worked it out. Most especially my being organized in the house. He accepted that never will I give up on being organized and be messy like a man so he did some adjustments by keeping the house tidy as much as possible. So am I, I understand that he will never ever be like me. When it comes to his favor the only thing I can't break was his love with volleyball and hobbies, He already justified that he needs an outlet after a stressful week + he truly enjoys it. So instead of arguing with him because im a home buddy and never hugged sports in my life.. ever.. I just support him on his games until I realized that he enjoys it so much so why I kept on stopping him. There's a lot of things we argue about and we worked out and this will be a very long blog if I will go to details so let's just leave it like that. We survived because we ACCEPT each other and we RESPECT each other. 

ACCEPTANCE is the key to less argument..I say... based on my own experience not understanding.Understanding is just like for recent situation, It was like okay i understand but tomorrow will you? but once you accept it, it will be permanent because you already understood the situation in every way you can and you accepted it. It was like an end effect to understanding. Both of us had past, positive and negative, just before our lives crossed so we accept that as well and our own families of course.

RESPECT I say "the most" important formula in a relationship or in every relationship. It is very hard for me to define respect but we apply it in ways not to hurt each other like choosing your words correctly. People when angry tend to throw words that are completely inappropriate that cause your partner to feel bad about him/herself. Always remember that words come out quickly and can be hard to take back. If you think you're wrong then why not accept it. If he/she made his/her point and you realized you're wrong then no need to prolong the argument.. just apologize. Honor each boundaries is what we always...always.. forget. but as days goes by we eventually learn to accept each others boundaries. We both learn to accept and understand personal boundaries like we're not crossing each other's line or we're not abusing each others lenient way of giving some "me time". We have rules and limitations and we respect it.

These factors what brought us to our decision. We love each other that we accept each other and respect each other and we are happy together and we know that no matter what happen , whatever comes that we can face it and work it out like what we did. No matter how long you were together even a year or two or 10 years it doesn't matter as long as those factors are present. You will know when it is right when you can see your future with him that no matter what, you will be willing to do everything for him/her so your relationship will work out and of course make sure that your partner feels the same way too.

*Post from My Wedding website I made for our wedding.